The following is simply an observation on human interaction and communication. You can derive your own conclusions about the parties involved. But, please do share whatever insights you derive.
Chinatown in DC is a fascinating place. After you get over the fact that unlike Chinatown NYC, it’s not very Chinese, you realize Chinatown DC is a meeting place between poverty and affluence, and the Verizon Center seems to be the focal point.
I frequent the Chipotle and Dunkin Donuts there almost daily, and when I’m eating my breakfast or Lunch I like observing the people going in and out as well as those hanging about.
I’ve noticed varying successes of the poor enlisting the help of those who have the ability to give.
Key difference I’ve observed between those that get fed and those that continue on begging is the position from which they communicate.
“Can you help me please?” or “Spare some change maam…” from a sitting position hardly every yields a response from the commuters in motion.
However, those that get fed always begin with rapport in body movement. Either opening the door for the commuters going in an out or moving at the same pace as the one they’re about to approach.
Some smile while they’re at it.
The next part, that closes the deal is specificity in language. They say something along the lines of, “Excuse me sir.”
“Yes?” The commuter responds.
The poor gentleman looks them straights in the eye, body turned toward the person, “I’m very hungry. Would you be so kind to buy me a meal?”
The commuter now giving full attention, “I don’t have any cash on me, but I can buy you some Chipotle.”
The poor man responds, “I don’t know. I never had Chipotle.”
The commuter answers, “It’s good food. Wholesome and healthy.”
“Do they have lettuce?” The poor man asks.
“They do.” Answers the commuter.
The poor man responds, “I don’t like lettuce. Let’s go to McDonald’s!”